Hello Ladies and welcome to another edition of HELP For Mums. Today we round up the guest blogger series that has been running for the last few weeks. I have featured some amazing mums this month that motivate and inspire me and as usual I have saved the best for last 😀
Detola Amure is an amazing woman of God and the Founder of SuperWorking Mum. She is a best selling author, mentor to many (including me) and runs the Super Working Mum Academy where she helps Christian working mothers all over the world MAXIMISE their time so they can MANIFEST their God given dreams. I am a testimony to how amazing the work that Detola does is! Before I joined the Super Working Mum Academy I was extremely overwhelmed with the demands of life and didn’t believe that I had time to do much else but be wife, mum and work – but working with Detola has been such a blessing and has changed my life! I could go on and on about how amazing this lady and the SWM community is but I will stop here and let you hear some amazing wise words from her as she shares on the principles of living a Blended Life.
It can be tough juggling work and family life. As a busy wife and mum of 2 young children- 6 years and 3 years old, I know all about juggling work, spiritual growth and family life. A lot of mothers focus on work life balance however the dilemma with work life balance is that you are only able to focus on two aspects of your life at any given time while everything else is floating in the air.
We all know as mothers we have a million and one things we are juggling at a time…i.e- marriage, children, friends, work, business, hobbies etc and this defeats the work life balance theory. In my experience working with busy mothers, I believe the way forward is living a blended life, where you have your relationship with God at the center and every other relationship or role that you play stems from there. By living a blended life you avoid unnecessary stress and overwhelm.I go into a lot more detail in my book Super Working Mum, Living and Loving Life to the fullest.
Here are some of my top tips for living a blended life;
- Spend time with God: Like I mentioned the most important relationship you should cherish as a woman is your relationship with God. Make your daily time with God the first thing you do every morning. He is the source of your strength so it makes sense to spend time with him every morning to recharge your “batteries”
- On the back of that, take care of you first – your spiritual (as discussed above), physical and mental health. If you do not take care of you, you won’t have the ability and energy to juggle anything. If you keep running on low one day you will crash.
- Get support, you cannot do it alone. Build relationships with other working mums, join a support or accountability group and share your victories and trials together. No (wo)man knows it all.
- Always use a to do list on a daily basis. You need to know what your top three priorities are on a daily basis and focus your time on that before working on non essentials. You will get more done this way with little stress.
- Sometimes things will happen and not go according to your plan for the day. Stay flexible; adjust your expectations accordingly so you don’t get worked up.
- Learn to laugh– things are not always as bad as they look. Having a good sense of humour does wonders for you keeping calm and dealing with overwhelm
- From the start of your day, choose how you will respond to every challenge that comes your way. Affirm to yourself that you will be calm no matter what. You may not always get it right but the key thing is you are now aware that you can choose how to respond to circumstances on a daily basis.
- Learn how to say no. You don’t have to say yes to every request thrown at you. You are not doing yourself any good by taking on more than you can actually do.
- Become a master in delegating. You will feel less overwhelmed and calmer when you delegate tasks you find draining, daunting or difficult.
- Don’t compare your life to others. You are unique and special in your own way. God made you the mother of your children because He knew you would be the best mum for them. I know the grass always looks greener on the other side, but I will encourage you to stay in your lane and water your own grass! 🙂